The Agenda

Locations

Hank’s Austin

The Pod (Dining Room)

Veracruz La Fonda

VanHorn’s

The Shape of the Day

1. Open the year
2. Fill the immovables
3. Dream expansively
4. Align on support & sacrifice
5. Constrain intentionally
6. Commit gently
7. Celebrate

Detailed Agenda (Start: 9:00 AM)

☀️ Morning: Open the Year

8:30–9:15: Opening Ritual

Purpose: Transition out of normal life. Look back at 2025. No note-taking yet! Just emotionally calibrating.

Location: Walk to Hank’s

• Walk together (no phones)
• Coffee

Prompts

• What did we love about this year?
• What was hard about this year?
• What felt good? What felt heavy?

9:15–9:45: Agree on Life Buckets

Purpose: Define what “counts” this year. Agree on what buckets we want to prioritize and set goals around.

Location: Hank’s

Outcome: Selected buckets to create goals for and plan around later.

Starting Buckets:

• Finances
• Travel
• Family
• House
• Health & Energy
• Our Marriage
• Individual Growth
• Fun & Play

9:45–10:15: Walk Home

Purpose: Mental transition

Let the categories settle before touching the calendar.

10:15–11:00: Setting the Stage: Calendar Skeleton

Purpose: Create safety and realism. Draw the lines of the playing field before the game starts.

Anything can be removed later. We’re trying to answer: “Do we actually have room for the life we want?”

Categories:

• Birthdays
• Anniversaries
• Known trips
• Weddings
• Work immovables
• Family events

11:00-11:15 Mini-Break

Purpose: Play with Sprig!

🌤 Midday: Dream First

11:15–12:15: Vision Pass (No Constraints)

Purpose: Name what “amazing” looks like. If this area felt amazing at the end of 2026, what would that look like?

Exercise: Go through each bucket and identify the goals, outcomes or feelings we’d like to associate with each of them by the end of the year.

Important rule: Write phrases, feelings, outcomes (not tasks or to-dos).

12:15–1:45: Lunch Break

Location: Veracruz Fonda

Purpose: Reset and rest

• No planning talk
• Horchata for Megan
• Let ideas marinate

🌅 Afternoon: Alignment & Commitment

1:45–2:45: Personal Goals & Mutual Support

Purpose: Surface where support, sacrifice, or patience may be required

Structure this intentionally and gently.

Individual Reflection (10 min each)

Each person answers:

• What is one personal goal that matters deeply to me this year?
• What will this require from me?
• Where might this impact you?

Shared Discussion Prompts

• Where will one of us need extra slack this year?
• What support would feel meaningful—not performative?
• Is there anything we should pause or deprioritize to make space for this?
• What does “being on the same team” look like here?

Outcome:

Mutual understanding, not negotiation.

This block prevents quiet resentment later.

2:45-3:00 Mini-Break

Purpose: Play with Sprig!

3:00–4:00: Constraint Pass

Purpose: Choose deliberately

For each category:

• 1–3 priorities
• Explicit not-this-year items

Key question:

“If only one thing went well here, what should it be?”

This is where the year becomes humane.

4:00-4:10 Mini-Break

Purpose: Play with Sprig!

4:10–5:00: Calendar Commitments

Purpose: Anchor vision in time

Add only what serves the vision:

• Major trips
• Project windows
• Financial checkpoints (quarterly reviews)
• Relationship rituals (weekends away, traditions)
• Health anchors

Rule: White space is success, not failure.

🌙 Evening: Meaning & Closure

5:00–5:30: Synthesis Moment

Purpose: Emotional closure before celebration. Hang up Big A## Calendar

Prompts:

• “What am I most excited about for us this year?”
• “What do I feel grateful for about how we planned together?”
• “What feels lighter now that it’s named?”

Write somewhere on the calendar:

“2026 is the year we ______.”

7:00: Celebration Dinner 🍷

Location: VanHorn’s

Purpose: Celebrate our first Lostak Symposium and how great 2026 will be!